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‘A woman should cast off her shame together with her clothes’: What women in ancient times really thought about Relationships
A new book tells the history of the ancient world through women. Here author Daisy Dunn explores what they had to say about their own sexuality – flying in the face of misogynist male stereotypes.
According to Semonides of Amorgos, a male poet working in Greece in the 7th Century BC, there are 10 main kinds of women. There are women who are like pigs, because they prefer eating to cleaning; women who resemble foxes, as they are peculiarly observant; donkey-women, who are sexually promiscuous; dog-women, marked for their disobedience. There are stormy sea-women, greedy Earth-women, thieving weasel-women, lazy horse-women, unattractive ape-women, and – the one good kind – hard-working bee-women.
Of all the women described in this list, which pulsates with the misogyny of the time, those so-called sexually promiscuous “donkey-women” are perhaps the most mysterious.
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Historical accounts from the ancient world tend to reveal the cloistered nature of women’s lives. In Greece, women were usually veiled in public, and in Rome, they had “guardians” (ordinarily their father or husband) to supervise their movements and handling of property. Was the concept of the lusty woman pure male fantasy? Or were women of the ancient world more interested in sex than is generally believed?
As I learned while researching my new book The Missing Thread, the first history of the ancient world to be written through women, we have to look hard if we want to uncover what women really thought about sex.
So far were ancient women from flinching at the sight of erotica that some were even buried with it
The vast majority of the surviving sources were written by men who were prone to exaggerate women’s sexual habits in one direction or the other. Some went to such lengths to emphasise a woman’s virtue that they made her seem almost saintly and inhuman. Others purposely presented women as sexually voracious as a means of blackening their characters. If we took these descriptions at face value, we would come to the conclusion that women in the ancient world were either all chaste, or sex-mad. Fortunately, it is possible to peer into the hearts of some classical women, who provide a far deeper view of female sexuality.
Confessions of infatuation
Looking to the same period as the poet quoted above, we encounter Sappho, who composed lyric poetry on the Greek island of Lesbos in the 7th Century BC. Gazing at a woman sitting talking to a man, Sappho documented the intense physical sensations she experienced – fluttering heart, faltering speech, fire through the veins, temporary blindness, ringing ears, cold sweat, trembling, pallor – all of which are familiar to anyone who’s ever fallen in lust. In another poem, Sappho described garlanding a woman with flowers and reminisced wistfully about how, on a soft bed, she would “quench [her] desire”. These are the confessions of a woman who understands the irrepressibility of infatuation.
Sappho’s poems are so fragmentary today that it can be difficult to read them accurately, but scholars have detected in one of the papyri a reference to “dildos”, known in Greek as olisboi. These were employed in fertility rituals in Greece, as well as for pleasure, and feature as such on a number of vase paintings. Later in Rome, too, phallic objects had a talisman-like quality. It would not have made sense for women to shy away from symbols that were believed to bring good luck.
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So far were ancient women from flinching at the sight of erotica that some were even buried with it. In the period before Rome came to prominence, the highly skilled Etruscans dominated the Italian mainland and filled it with scenes of a romantic nature. Numerous works of art and pieces of tomb statuary depict men and women reclining together. An incense burner featuring men and women touching each other’s genitals was interred with an Etruscan woman in the 8th Century BC.
How prostitution was perceived
You only have to visit an ancient brothel, such as those of Pompeii, to see that sex was frequently on show. The walls of the dismal, cell-like rooms in which sex workers plied their trade are covered in graffiti, much of it written by male clients, who liked to comment on the performances of named women.
Historical accounts and speeches abound with descriptions of the hardships endured by such workers. Against Neaera, a prosecution speech delivered by Athenian politician Apollodorus in the 4th Century BC, provides particularly startling insight into the precariousness of these women’s lives. Just occasionally, however, we hear from a woman in touch with this world – and her words surprise.
In the 3rd Century BC, a female poet named Nossis living in the toe of Italy wrote in praise of an artwork and the fact that it was funded by a sex worker. A glorious statue of Aphrodite, goddess of sex and love, sung Nossis, had been erected in a temple using money raised by Polyarchis.
Polyarchis was not an anomaly. An earlier hetaera (courtesan or high-status sex worker) called Doricha used the money she had acquired similarly to purchase something for public view, in her case impressive spits for cooking oxen to be displayed at Delphi.
It was not sex these women embraced but rather the rare chance it afforded them to be remembered after they died. The vast majority of the women they knew were destined for anonymity.
Male writers’ insights
Male writers, for all their prejudices, can provide some of the most interesting insights into women and sex. In 411 BC, the comedian Aristophanes put on a play called Lysistrata, in which the women of Athens organise a sex strike in a bid to persuade their husbands to agree peace terms during the Peloponnesian War. This was a real conflict, waged between Athens and Sparta and their respective allies across three decades.
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Many of the women in the play are less than pleased at having to give up their pleasure. They are made to conform to the donkey-woman stereotype for comic effect. There is a moment, however, at which the play turns in a serious direction and Aristophanes offers a more convincing female viewpoint.
The title character Lysistrata, who organises the strike, describes what it is really like for women in wartime. Not only are they banned from the Assembly, in which the war is discussed, but they are repeatedly bereaved. And while such a protracted conflict is hell for married women, it is still worse for unmarried women, who are deprived of the chance to marry altogether.
It was quite usual among the upper classes for marriages to be arranged – and a woman’s first experience of sex could be disorientating
While the men, Lysistrata points out, may return home from war grey-haired and still marry, the same does not hold true for virgins, many of whom will be deemed too old to wed and procreate. These lines convey the difference between the male and the female experience of war so accurately that it is tempting to believe that they reflect what women of the day were really saying.
We may find real women’s fears surrounding sex expressed in Greek tragedy too. Sophocles, the playwright most famous for Oedipus Rex, had a female character in his lost play Tereus describe what it is like to go from being a virgin to a wife. “And this, as soon as one night has yoked us,” utters Procne, a mythical queen, “we must commend and deem to be quite lovely”.
It was quite usual among the upper classes for marriages to be arranged. A woman’s first experience of sex could be as disorientating as Procne described.
Ancient sex tips
Women sometimes committed such thoughts to papyrus. In a letter attributed to her, Theano, a Greek female philosopher in the circle of Pythagoras (some say she was his wife), offers her friend Eurydice some timeless advice. A woman, she writes, should cast off her shame together with her clothes when she enters her husband’s bed. She can put both back on together as soon as she has stood up again.
Theano’s letter has come under scrutiny and may not be authentic. Nevertheless, it closely echoes what many women have said to each other in more modern times, and its advice seems to have been followed by women in the ancient world as well.
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A certain Greek poet, Elephantis, was allegedly so keen to give women sex tips that she wrote her own short books on the topic. There is sadly no sign of her work today, but it is mentioned by both the Roman poet Martial and the Roman biographer and archivist Suetonius, who claimed that Emperor Tiberius (notorious for his sexual appetites) owned copies.
Where other women are quoted in other men’s writings, they tend to express themselves in terms of love as opposed to sex explicitly, which marks them out from some of their male contemporaries, including Martial and Catullus.
Lesbia, the pseudonymous lover of Catullus, tells him that “What a lady says to her lover in the moment / Ought to be written on the wind and running water”. The phrase “pillow talk” comes to mind.
Sulpicia, one of the few Roman poetesses whose verses survive, describes her misery at being in the countryside away from her lover Cerinthus on her birthday – and then her relief that she can be in Rome after all.
These women did not need to describe sex with their beloved in crude detail to reveal what they really thought of it. Men may dominate the sources but women, as Aphrodite well knew, could be every bit as passionate when the curtains were closed.
The Missing Thread: A New History of the Ancient World Through the Women Who Shaped It by Daisy Dunn has just been published by Weidenfeld & Nicolson in the UK and will be published by Viking in the US on 30 July.
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Part 2-Muslim-Sikh Harmony in Punjab: Akhtar Hussain Sandhu with Arshdeep Kaur Battu in a TV Interview on Sanjha TV (Canada)
Dr. Akhtar Hussain Sandhu, expert on Sikh/Punjab Studies, historian, scholar and columnist from Pakistan, currently living in USA was interviewed by famous anchor Arshdeep Kaur Battu for Sanjha TV, Surrey (Canada). The Light Newspaper is publishing first part of this interview and the rest of parts will be published in the forthcoming Sundays.
Translated by:
Farooq Muhammad Wyne
Lecturer in English
Government Islamia College Civil Lines, Lahore
Part 2
Earlier, you mentioned “Wand” (Division); division didn’t only occur in 1947. Way before that, Delhi was part of Punjab, and then it was separated by the British, and no one spoke out against this territorial loss of Punjab. NWFP and other regions extending up to Kabul during the reign of Maharaja Ranjit Singh were part of Punjab, and even Kashmir was under Punjab; later, Kashmir separated, but no Punjabi leader cried or protested. Moving on, Haryana got separated, Himachal Pradesh, Chandigarh gained the status of union territory, who spoke against that?
The leadership crisis in Punjab has always existed. The major issue in Punjab is the crisis of leadership, even today. We (the Punjabis) neither have unity nor capable leadership. A leader is someone who thinks about people. There is a word called “Ishq.” It is something that cannot be associated with a man or a woman; it would be an insult to the word “Ishq” if it is used in this context. “Ishq” means losing your comfort, wealth, and everything you have for the sake of a ‘cause’ or mission. The cause of ultimate societal betterment. “Ishq” entails selflessness and self-negation in pursuit of higher objectives. Spirituality, which entails selflessness and self-negation, is the prime quality of a capable leader, but it is rarely seen today. If someone doesn’t rise above his materialistic gains and vested interests, he cannot benefit people and hence cannot become a leader. Such a person will deliver speeches for the public good but will have his own motives. So, the leadership of Punjab is now suffering from materialism. They (the politicians) need money, ministries, and status. In conclusion, Punjabis lack unity and leadership.
Host: We often remember Bhagat Singh, especially in September when his holiday is celebrated. Bhagat Singh would have never imagined that his Punjab would be divided into two parts, and elderly Punjabis would lament the division of the land. His only dream was that Punjabis should remain united, undivided, and in harmony. I often think his soul must be writhing to see the current state of Punjabis.
Guest: Regarding Bhagat Singh, there are many elements to discuss. Sadly, some members of the Sikh community have ostracized him from the Sikh community. My question is, if someone calls himself a Gursikh (a devoted follower of Sikh Gurus), will the Guru cast him away? If a Sikh goes to the Guru and calls himself his follower, will the Guru say to him, “No, since you do this and that, you go away”? No, the Guru will not say such a thing. When the Guru himself does not reject him, who are we to reject him (Bhagat Singh)? Whoever goes to the holy door of the Gurus is accepted wholeheartedly and embraced. The purity of their (Holy men’s) souls and intellects is very clear; they accept any kind of man, be it good or otherwise. But now, this phenomenon of excommunicating people is prevalent, where individuals are labeled as believers or disbelievers, Sikhs or non-Sikhs. When such states of affairs are prevalent in Punjab, what kind of leadership can we expect?
At least Bhagat Singh was fighting for independence, for Punjab, and for India’s freedom against the colonizers. Just look at these aspects; aren’t they enough? Why do people delve into deeper issues? He was a writer, and if someone is a writer, his task is to write. If someone is a reformer, his task is to reform. If someone is a poet, his task is to write poetry. If someone is a lyricist, he will be remembered for his art. That’s how people should be remembered (for their works), and we don’t need to invade their personal lives to find faults and defects.
Host: But such things are pervading.
Guest: Personal affairs of revered personalities should be left to themselves. Just look at their work. If I am a Professor or researcher on Punjab, that’s enough. No one needs to
look at my religion or personal inclinations or affiliations; this isn’t necessary. Today, you invited me on your television show, for which I am very grateful, but that is because I am a researcher on Punjab. If you invite a political leader, then you would look at him from a political perspective, not a religious one. Likewise, if someone is a reformer, he will be viewed from another context. Whoever contributes to his field gets recognized; hence, we don’t need to delve into his personal or family affairs. This is a drawback in Punjabi culture; they observe minutiae, irrelevant and inconsequential details, and then politicize the whole thing. This is one of the most problematic issues in Punjab.
Host: We often highlight that education is important. We also say that if youth are equipped with education, it will change the course of the country. The youth of any country holds utmost importance. Previously, we were discussing women’s education, how much education and awareness are being provided to (Punjabi) women, and how many of them are being encouraged to join schools and universities and then join the profession they love and aspire to. But whenever we talk about Sikhya (Education), the element of religion cannot be excluded. It is often said (regarding Punjab of Pakistan) that Muslims are given educational opportunities while Non-Muslims are not. Are these things real? Are they happening in Pakistan?
Guest: My father Ch. Khadim Hussain used to say that in childhood, a man’s energy is in his hands and legs; he tries to run, play, and jump. Gradually, the energy moves towards his chest and heart, and he wants to change the world; he wants to become an activist. When he crosses his forties, he becomes mature and a thinker; he starts thinking. This is the age of his wisdom. When he becomes too old, his energies start to fade away, and he only speaks and starts babbling like a child. This is the cycle of life. Our scholars (Vidwan) think, use wisdom, and show the path, values, and wisdom. It is the task of the youth to implement those values and wisdom. Youth is the backbone of any society, and they are the ones who change society. The experience they gather when they reach the age of wisdom is then used to lead people forward from that perspective. Youth is very important. Hence, if the youth is kept away from education, there will be a lapse of awareness among them. This is why the youth, especially those in education, shall realize that their primary objective is learning, not money. The first textbook a child reads is his mother; she inculcates religious and moral values into him. The second textbook of a child is his society and surroundings; he learns from his society, as it is the second institution of learning. The third textbook of a child is his primary educational institution. But when he goes to university, the door becomes open for him; he is already socially constructed by his religion, society, and school. This is the time when he decides in which direction he wants to move, let’s say engineering, medical, religion, or IT. At that moment, he has to strike a balance between the training and learning he received earlier and the direction he now wants to move in. If he fails to do that, it will create an identity crisis in him. This is why he should not cut himself off from the learning he takes from his mother tongue and culture. The important thing is that whichever field he chooses, he has to carry his culture along with him.
If the student forgets his culture, he will face a severe identity crisis; he won’t be able to distinguish between his roots, i.e., whether he is Punjabi or belongs to the West. In Punjab, the English language is taken as a measure of intelligence and education; if someone speaks English in Punjab, he is often considered a scholar. But even in an English society, let’s say an insane or psychologically ill person also speaks English; does it denote wisdom? Of course not. English should not be given preference over Punjabi in Punjab. English is just a language, a mode of communication, and wisdom is
something else. Education doesn’t teach you wisdom; rather, it hones your skills and capabilities. It tells you how to behave. If there is a saint or an engineer inside you, getting an education will bring it out. Likewise, if there is a poet, writer, or historian in you, education will bring it out. The teacher is also an educationist and a facilitator. Our (Punjabi) students are away from books, and even before that, they are away from their Punjabi language and culture. They can speak one or two sentences in Punjabi but aren’t able to carry out a substantial conversation. I remember I was training some officers in Lahore. I asked them, “Do you know Punjabi language? As you’re all Punjabis,” they replied in assent, saying if they can’t speak Punjabi, then who would? So, I read out the lyrics of a famous Punjabi song:
Pichhe pichhe aunda meri chaal vehnda aen, Chirey valia vekhda aen ve, mera lawng gawacha
(translated as, following me, keep a watch on the route I walked; O turbaned boy, keep watching while my nose ornament is lost).
Then I asked what “Chiray wala” means in Punjabi, and they replied, “Those who have a straight line or distinct mark in their hairstyle (cheer).” I tried to suppress my laughter and said a “turban” (safaa) is called Cheera in Punjabi. The officers were shocked. Likewise, I was once posted in Murree as a Lecturer. While traveling in public transport in Punjab, you know in our society these days, the FM Radios have changed their styles. The Radio Jockeys speak while music plays in the background. So, neither can you enjoy her talk nor the music. The song being played was “Mahi merya rond na marin, me da laaya jind jan da” (My beloved, do not betray me as I have put my life at stake for you), probably sung by Noor Jahan. The Radio jockey said while lowering the volume, “I consulted a Punjabi scholar about the meaning of ‘rond marna,’ and he told me it means to shoot someone.” This shows the youth’s nonseriousness of Punjabis towards their language and culture.
Host: I think parents play an important role in the upbringing of children because whatever language the parents speak, the child will try to repeat it, as is the case in Observational Learning of a Child.
Guest: In our Punjab (both Eastern and Western), it is often said that if you don’t speak Hindi or English on the Indian side of Punjab, you probably won’t be able to compete in Indian civil services and other competitive exams. On our (Pakistani) side of Punjab, it is widely regarded that if you don’t know Urdu and English, you might not ace the civil services examinations. This is why they are encouraged to learn such languages, the language of capital (market language), which isn’t bad, but the problem arises when you discourage Punjabis from speaking Punjabi. The second thing is that when our children get this “heen bhavna” or inferiority complex, perhaps the Punjabi language is not a good language. But I think Punjabi youth can still struggle to regain the lost glory of their language. You see, in our home, it was said that if you don’t learn English and Urdu, you won’t succeed. Gradually, I started studying my culture; I read the poetry of Waris Shah, Bulleh Shah, Mian Muhammad Bakhsh, and Sultan Bahu, the famous Punjabi poets. Each verse of such gems contains pearls of wisdom. If our youth is getting away from Punjabi culture, they would lose gems of
wisdom. For example, our proverbial wisdom such as “Dhyian sab dian sanjhiyan hundian ne” (Daughters are cherished and valued by the entire community) or “Wadyan da ehtram karna chai da ay” (the elderly shall be respected), such ethics and values cannot come from the West. If we defy our (Punjabi) culture, we will not only be cut off from our language and heritage, but we will also lose the gems of wisdom that they carry. Especially poets like Mian Muhammad Bakhsh; his poetry is full of wisdom and appeals to the intellect.
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Navruz & Timur’s Empire: A Kaleidoscope of Cultures Blooms at Uzbekistan’s University of Journalism
By Prof. Gulmira Shukurova
The University of Journalism and Mass Communications of Uzbekistan was not merely a campus today. It was a canvas — a living, breathing tapestry of silk, spice, melody, and memory. Under the resonant banner “The Spirit of Navruz and the Cultures of Amir Temur’s Empire,” the university exploded into a grand cultural festival that turned spring into a story and every visitor into a character within it.

The air thickened from the first light of morning with the fragrance of freshly baked samsa, saffron rice, and the smoky sweetness of tandoori bread. Students in embroidered chapan robes and shimmering kelin dresses moved like living paintings between pavilions. Professors set aside their lecture notes to become curators of heritage. And over it all, the gentle Navruz sun — ancient and forgiving — showered the grounds in gold.
Twenty Nations, One Heartbeat
More than twenty nationalities were represented in a sprawling open-air exhibition that turned the university courtyard into a radiant kaleidoscope. Each pavilion was a small universe: hand-carved wooden cradles from one culture, silver jewelry that jingled like forgotten poetry from another, and ceramic plates painted with symbols older than memory.

Students, dressed in authentic national costumes, did not simply explain their heritage — they lived it. A girl from the Karakalpak pavilion demonstrated a cradle-lullaby ritual while her partner played a dutar. A young man at the Uzbek stall brewed green tea in a ceramic teapot and recited a Navruz blessing. At the Tajik corner, an elder student handed out sumalak — the sweet wheat pudding of spring — while chanting a folk rhyme about renewal.
Every pavilion competed in charm. There were theatrical skits retelling the legends of Timur’s court, mock weddings showcasing bridal traditions, and even a miniature bazaar where visitors could haggle for handmade scarves and wooden spoons — all in good humor, all in the spirit of bakhshish (generosity). Students, as passionate cultural ambassadors, wove narratives through folk performances, theatrical enactments, and heartfelt conversations that connected visitors to the deep, rich history of their cultures.

A Gathering of Dignitaries and Dreamers
The festival drew a distinguished cross-section of the nation — and the world. Foreign ambassadors in formal suits walked side by side with students in embroidered skullcaps. International guests were seen laughing over plates of plov while Uzbekistan’s Minister of Higher Education, Science and Innovation paused to watch a theatrical performance of a Navruz legend.
State organization representatives, media professionals, and a sea of enthusiastic students filled the walkways. Cameras clicked. Voices hummed. At one point, a group of young journalists from the host university began recording short video interviews — capturing, for posterity, the authentic voice of Central Asian pluralism.





The ambassador of a European nation was overheard saying: “I have attended many cultural days. But this — this feels less like diplomacy and more like family.”
The True Essence of Spring
What made the day unforgettable was not just the spectacle, but the spirit. The university became a poem to spring — a celebration not merely of diversity, but of harmony. Under the open sky, interethnic unity and tolerance were not abstract ideals. They were visible in a Korean-Uzbek student teaching a Russian guest how to fold mandu, and in a Turkmen girl sharing dried apricots with a Kyrgyz journalist.

The event also carried a deeper, historical resonance. The reference to Amir Temur’s Empire was not decorative — it was a reminder that centuries ago, Samarkand was a crossroads of civilizations. Today, that crossroads lives again in every shared smile, every exchanged recipe, every spontaneous dance circle that erupted on the grass. The echoes of his empire — rich in art, culture, and conquest — were present in the performances, the artifacts, and the stories that unfolded before every attendee.





A Bridge Between Eras
As the afternoon sun softened into a honeyed glow, the festival reached its emotional peak. A choir of students sang a Navruz melody in five different languages — Uzbek, Tajik, Karakalpak, Russian, and English. Behind them, a troupe of young actors performed a shadow-play reenacting Temur’s famous decree of religious and cultural tolerance.
For a moment, past and present melted into one. The scent of qaynatma soup mingled with the sound of a child’s laughter. An elderly professor wiped a tear as a student placed a traditional cap on his head. And somewhere, a doira drum kept beating — steady, joyful, and deeply human. National melodies mingled with the laughter of friends, and ancient customs were revived with fresh enthusiasm, creating a vibrant tapestry that was as much about yesterday as it was about tomorrow.






More Than a Festival – A Tradition of Unity
In the end, this gathering was not a one-day celebration. It has become a beloved annual tradition at the University of Journalism — one that strengthens community bonds, nurtures shared values, and reminds everyone that spring’s true magic lies not in the flowers, but in the act of blooming together. The event was a testament to the university’s commitment to fostering tolerance and cultural exchange, where unity was not just an ideal, but a palpable experience.
As the last pavilion folded its carpets and the sun dipped behind the rooftops, guests left with full stomachs, lighter hearts, and the quiet understanding that culture, when celebrated with genuine joy, becomes the truest language of peace.
And that, perhaps, is the most powerful story of all.
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Muslim-Sikh Harmony in Punjab: Akhtar Hussain Sandhu with Arshdeep Kaur Battu in a TV Interview on Sanjha TV (Canada)
Dr. Akhtar Hussain Sandhu, expert on Sikh/Punjab Studies, historian, scholar and columnist from Pakistan, currently living in USA was interviewed by famous anchor Arshdeep Kaur Battu for Sanjha TV, Surrey (Canada). The Light Newspaper is publishing first part of this interview and the rest of parts will be published in the forthcoming Sundays.
Translated by:
Farooq Muhammad Wyne
Lecturer in English
Government Islamia College Civil Lines, Lahore
Part 1
Host Arshdeep Kaur Battu: Welcome to Sanjha TV. I’m your host, Arshdeep. We extend a warm welcome to you on the Listen Up Segment with Arshdeep Kaur Battu. Today’s program features a very special discussion, as we have an esteemed Dr. Akhtar Hussain Sandhu with us. Whenever we discuss our Language (Boli) Land (Mitti) and Culture (Sabyachar), it takes us back to 1947 when our nation was divided, particularly Punjab.

Eastern Punjab (Charda Punjab or the Indian part of Punjab), Western Punjab (Lehnda Punjab or the Pakistani part of Punjab), and the present Punjab (Aha Punjab) have been established in different regions (Pakistan and India). In these Punjabs, diverse discussions occur, indicating that Punjabis from different lands still feel connected to one another, despite the separation caused by borders. Whenever Punjabis meet, we take pride in our culture, embrace one another, attend each other’s marriages, and participate in each other’s joys and sorrows. We are concerned about the division of Punjab, but such discussions in the Punjabi Diaspora (Teeja Punjab) often take a different turn.
Typically, we focus on Indian Punjab (Charda Punjab), but today we are discussing Pakistani Punjab (Lehnda Punjab). For this, we have the highly honorable Dr. Akhtar Hussain Sandhu with us. When it comes to his personality, no introduction is needed. He is a scholar, a historian, and an author of multiple books. He hails from Pakistan and is with us today in Canada. We welcome you, Dr.
Sandhu.
Guest Akhtar Hussain Sandhu: Thank you very much for your love and kindness. I also extend my gratitude to those living in Canada and everyone listening to us for their love and affection for Punjab.
Host: Dr. Sandhu, I recall our first meeting in the library. As I got to know you, my respect for you grew continuously. I then thought we should invite you to our panel, and we are grateful for your valuable time. Currently, you are in Surrey. How are you feeling?
Guest: I am very happy to be here. It feels like home because wherever you find love for your language, land, and culture, you feel a sense of belonging. Regarding our meeting in the library, I am very happy to visit the Gurdwara, which serves as a center for community love for Punjabi culture and education. The Gurdwara represents the symbol of education, wisdom, and learning. I felt extremely pleased that you have a library next to your studio. As you know, there is a shortage of libraries, and our Punjabi youth seem to be moving away from books and libraries. We need to promote Punjabi culture through education. I am delighted to be in Surrey, especially because I met many good friends here, including Sardar Jaiteg Singh Anant, Gian Singh Sandhu, Jaswindar Singh Parmar, Harpreet Singh and other friends, such as poets, journalists, and authors. I pray for all these gentlemen and wish that Punjabis, wherever they live, continue to flourish. The Punjabis living in Canada are like flowers spreading the aroma of Punjabi culture in this land.
Host: Thank you, and on behalf of all Canadian Punjabis, we welcome you to this land. Our hearts feel delighted when it comes to Pakistan, and we become eager to learn about it. Although I have never been to Pakistan, I have a strong desire to visit, especially the land of Punjab where our Sikh ancestors lived. I would like to visit the sacred places we see in videos, where our pilgrims go and touch the sacred walls of those buildings. Whenever we see such videos, our eyes become wet, and I believe the experience will be even more intense when I physically visit.
Today, we will discuss various topics as you are also a historian, a scholar, actively engaged in youth affairs, and most importantly, the Principal of an esteemed college. When we talk about Pakistani Punjab, the topic of minorities, which you have already discussed, is of utmost importance. We have also touched on the pride of Punjabi culture. Now, coming to the topic of women’s education and empowerment, as you know, every country talks about gender equality. Could you share your thoughts on women’s education in Pakistani Punjab and the steps being taken to ensure their education and welfare?
Guest: Indeed, you have raised an important question. I understand that some people might not agree with me, but my stance is that in our Punjab, there are many organizations that advocate for women’s empowerment. However, I view them from two different angles. The status of human beings is different and somewhat elevated. If you compare them to animals, you might say that they have some physical similarities, but in terms of intellect, they are two distinct species. In my opinion, a woman is highly respectable and honorable because she gives birth.
Sometimes I say God is the creator, and on earth, it is the woman who gives birth and gives life, meaning you find a God-like characteristic in a woman that is not found in a man. Secondly, a woman is the epicenter of peace, love, and fragrance. A man’s dynamics are different; he is a warrior who goes out and earns. Therefore, there is no comparison between men and women; they are two different genders with distinct roles and characteristics. Even if we look at the physical attributes of a man and a woman, we will find differences.
Before the inception of civilization, people who lived in caves, as some experts claim, were considered uncivilized. However, I don’t believe they were uncivilized. During the Stone Age, women who gave birth in caves raised their children without modern facilities and technologies. These women were able to continue the human race through their special care in raising their offspring. Therefore, they were not uncivilized but rather civilized as they managed to preserve the human species that we have become today. Then civilization began, so you cannot disconnect the period of the inception of civilization from the Stone Age. Human beings, especially women, played an important role in the transition of the human race from the Stone Age to civilization. This is why the status of women has always been highly elevated, even from the start. Additionally, we say God provides and sustains us, and there is no doubt about it, as it is one of His attributes. When it comes to society and our homes, who provides and nourishes us? It is our women—our mothers, sisters, and wives.
Two things are very important in life on earth: creation and sustenance. In the Heavens, God does that, and on earth, it is the woman who is endowed with such characteristics. However, I do not believe that comparing men and women to determine who is superior or inferior is productive; instead, we should discuss the different and important roles that both genders play in society, especially women whose status is as elevated as it can be. In our Punjabi culture, whenever there was a vendetta, it was the women who would go to the enemy’s house, and the fight would end due to the woman’s honor. If someone placed a woman’s scarf (dupatta/chunni) at someone else’s feet, the fight would end immediately. This was our culture, and this was women’s honor.
There is an incident which is not recorded in history but is sometimes quoted by a segment of the Punjabis of our Lehnda Punjab (Pakistani part of Punjab) that when Maharaja Ranjit Singh told his Wazir (minister) about a debate among Muslims regarding a garden called Bagh-i-Fadak, he expressed that it should be given to the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). When the wazir asked for evidence, Maharaja reprimanded him, saying, “Hold your tongue because when daughters of an honorable family come to someone’s door, no other justification should be demanded. Hazrat Fatima (RA) was not an ordinary lady but a daughter of the Prophet (PBUH) of the Muslims; she should be given the whole kingdom by them…if she asked for everything, she should be given everything.” This illustrates the importance of a daughter or a woman. It is widely known in our folklore that when daughters come to someone’s door, everything should be put on hold. We often see men as chivalrous, but when they see a single drop of tears in the eyes of their daughters and women, it melts them down. How brave and strict a man may be, when he is in front of his mother and daughter, the same strict man becomes like a fusible candle. When we look at the culture of Punjab, we are amazed by the purity and sense of equanimity. There is an element of respect for women in Punjabi culture.
Similarly, the concept of “Zar (Wealth), Zan (Women), Zameen (Land)” is prevalent in Punjabi culture. However, if we critically analyze it, we will realize that men in Punjabi culture have always put their lives at stake for their women. This demonstrates the respect for women in Punjabi culture. In contrast, in Western culture, you’ll find the idea of rugged individualism, whereas in Punjabi culture, the sense of collectivity is more prevalent. What is often perceived as a male-dominated society is actually not so; rather, the honor they have for women is unparalleled. You cannot harass a woman in Punjabi culture and get away with it; such a phenomenon is not found in the West. In Punjabi culture, there is also a dominant aspect: even if someone has seven sons, he would pray to God for a daughter because to him, sons are inheritors of properties, and daughter is the custodian of the funeral of father (dhee jinazey di waris).
Host: Those who have daughters can understand. I can see you’re being a bit emotional right now.
Guest: Just look at the beauty of our culture. It is often misrepresented that in Punjab, women are usually treated as concubines and inferior, but don’t rush to such conclusions before studying and analyzing all aspects of Punjabi culture.
Host: As our Guru Nanak once said, “So kyo manda aakhiye, jit jamme rajan” (Why call her bad who gives birth to kings?). It is also said that God doesn’t come down to earth to show us what Paradise looks like, but He created Mother to give you a glimpse of Paradise and told you that Paradise lies at her feet. As you (Dr. Akhtar) have shared about the glorification of women in Punjabi culture, a large segment of Punjabi society follows such ethics, but there are still some who disregard women.
Guest: Yes, I understand your point. The issue is this: there are two paths—one is right, and the other is wrong. One path is of God, and the other is of Satan. One path is spiritual, and the other is materialistic. All religions, including Islam, have given us the path—the path of goodness, called Sirat-al-Mustaqeem (the Right Path) in Islam. Now, you see, there is one individual who values material things above all, but on the other hand, there is another man who rejects himself and works for the betterment of human society. Now, tell me, which one of these will be remembered in history? The selfish or the altruistic?
Look at the example of Baba Guru Nanak; if he wanted, he could have amassed wealth, but no, he chose the other path. He worked for the betterment of his surroundings; he distributed whatever he had to the poor. He did “Sucha/Sacha Sauda” (the righteous transaction). Today, why do people remember him? Because of his deeds. He sacrificed wealth for the sake of spiritual people. Even after centuries, those to be remembered are the likes of Guru Nanak and other selfless individuals who worked for society and humanity. If a criminal-minded person grabs and plunders the rights of women, or if someone uses religion for personal gain or social status, or if someone is money-minded, history will not recognize them with decent diction.
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